While I most definitely have more important things to do, like sleeping, I have been in a writing mood all day. Especially since I helped a friend look over a paper this morning and was reminded that I used to do it more. I miss writing. Not necessarily for school, but I miss having something to say that doesn’t require a question such as “How much do you want to deposit?”
When considering topics, I thought about Pinterest. Not the website itself, but I get ideas for everything else on there, why not a topic? It would seem as most of the ‘repins’ as they are called, were relating to love tonight. All kinds of love. Not just between a man and a woman. So I suppose, that is just a good a place as any to start.
First of all, what is love? Not the horrendous song from back in the day. Haddaway didn’t know jack about the real thing.
Is it something you can touch? Something you feel? Something you can see? Those are all possible, but not for certain. Too often love is mistaken for a strong ‘like’ in my opinion. I would say I ‘love’ macaroni and cheese, but what does it really do for me? It satisfies a craving once in a while, stops a hunger pain, and the taste is indeed something made of awesome. But does it love me back? Not at all. It instead is filled with awful calories that really just want to find my hips and stay there. I would say I ‘love’ shopping. But does shopping love me back? Oh, please. I have enough credit card debt for 3 people. Thank you, Maurices and Victoria’s Secret. You don’t love me, you just want my money. That boy you dated in high school you thought you ‘loved’ after a month, well, that lasted about another month after you saw he really wasn’t what you thought, or he cheated on you. I hear 13-year-olds right now tell their mothers they ‘love’ so-and-so. Really? I don’t think so.
Love may be something different to most everyone. It may be that feeling you get when you pull fresh sheets out of the dryer. It may be the sound your puppy makes when he hears you come home. It may be and more than likely is the smile on your child’s face. But love, has such a deeper meaning than just that.
Love is magical. It can be painful but it can also be the best feeling on earth. I’ve often heard the saying ‘you don’t know what love is until you have a child’. And while I am sure this is true to some extent, I know people who don’t have a child at all, but I bet you they have loved or been loved in their lifetime. There are many types of love, you know. I love my dad more than anything on earth. I love my mom most of the time. My brother is my best friend and I love him dearly. My friends I also love to the moon and back. But there is still love that awaits me—my true love.
I would like to think that I have loved in my life, I did have a boyfriend for almost 3 years. I know I am capable. I know I am willing. I know that somewhere out there among those millions of people there is at least one more soul that matches mine closely enough. And I believe I will know when I find it. It is so easy to mistake love. You can love someone and not be ‘in love’ with them. So often our ideas of love are tainted by the works of Hollywood and the writings of those who want to share their talent. But, I don’t think we really know until we are there. That’s why the saying goes that ‘when you find it, you will know’.
I know I have an idea of love, and I know what love most certainly is not.
Love is not abusive, love is not selfish, love is not mean, love is not deceitful. Love is not putting yourself first.
Love is knowing that you are safe. That no matter what happens, that person will protect you if they can. Love is looking at someone, and realizing that your life would not be the same were they not in it. Love is being there for someone no matter what turn their life has taken, and loving them through it. Love is making someone stronger with your love for them. Love is encouragement, love is a smile, and love is a laugh when you need it the most. Love is giving and not expecting anything in return. Love is knowing you can trust that person with your heart and your deepest secrets. Love is not judging, but accepting. Love is being so connected to someone that you can spend hours without having to say a word, because a gentle, peaceful quiet is all you need. But at the same time, love is being able to talk for hours and never running out of things to say. Love is real. Love is that feeling the minute someone touches or kisses you, and knowing that your life will never be the same. And true love, my friends, is a bond that is unbreakable.
I believe that sadly, most of the time love is one sided, but sometimes you get lucky enough to have your love reciprocated just as deeply. I believe that fate and destiny play a big role in life, and love. I believe that with love, all things really are possible.
I will leave you with the most famous quote about love, just some food for thought:
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails...But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13
P.S. Like I would really leave without a song lyric? Psht…
One of my favorites! From King George himself…
I Cross My Heart
Our love is unconditional, we knew it from the start.
I see it in your eyes, you can feel it from my heart.
From here on after let's stay the way we are right now,
And share all the love and laughter
That a lifetime will allow.
I cross my heart and promise to
Give all I've got to give to make all your dreams come true.
In all the world you'll never find a love as true as mine.
You will always be the miracle that makes my life complete,
And as long as there's a breath in me, I'll make yours just as sweet.
As we look into the future, it's as far as we can see,
So let's make each tomorrow be the best that it can be.
I cross my heart and promise to
Give all I've got to give to make all your dreams come true.
In all the world you'll never find a love as true as mine.
And if along the way we find a day it starts to storm,
You've got the promise of my love to keep you warm.
In all the world you'll never find a love as true as mine,
A love as true as mine.
--George Strait
